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1. What if I receive spam in my e-mail account for Lovetastic?

2. What if a Lovetastic member who is just interested in hooking up contacts me? Doesn't this go against the philosophy of the site?

3. If someone contacts me and I am not interested, should I write back anyway?

4. Can I have another member’s direct contact information?

5. Can I see whether a member to whom I have sent a message has read it?

1. What if I receive spam in my e-mail account for Lovetastic?

2. Despite all of our efforts, spam occasionally creeps into Lovetastic e-mail accounts. If this happens, click on the “flag message as creepy/spam” button on the message view page and we’ll be alerted immediately to the problem. (You may then delete the message.) In most cases, we promptly delete the offending user’s account.

3. What if a Lovetastic member who is just interested in hooking up contacts me? Doesn't this go against the philosophy of the site?

4. The purpose of Lovetastic is to help gay men find love and lasting relationships. If you receive a message from someone trying to hook up or otherwise sending out creepy vibes, click on the “flag this message as creepy/spam” button on the message view page and we’ll promptly investigate and take steps if appropriate.

5. If someone contacts me and I am not interested, should I write back anyway?

6. Inevitably, you will be contacted by at least one person that you are not interested in. Do them a favor and respond anyway even if it is just to tell them “no thanks”. Respect others as you would want them to respect you.

7. Can I have another member’s direct contact information?

8. Tsk. Tsk. You know better than that.

9. Can I see whether a member to whom I have sent a message has read it?

10. Indeed. We believe in openness on Lovetastic, and we encourage people who aren’t interested to reply and say so. We know it’s hard to let other guys down, but you’re not doing them any favors by leaving them wondering.

    Click on the “Messages” tab and then the “Sent” sub-tab. There will be a column next to the message in question called “read at” telling you when and if the message was read. Please be patient in waiting for replies. We all procrastinate. And a lengthy delay in a reply is common. Don’t necessarily take it as rebuke.