Lovetastic: dating for gay men who believe in love

Looking for a man who knows how to love himself and has a healthy self-esteem. Especially drawn to men who are kind, open hearted, and knows his purpose in life. Prefer guys around my age (44). It would be nice if he shares some of my interests, which includes: bodybuilding, classical music, literature, travelling, personal development, financial investment, business startups and social activism.

I like being physically and emotionally intimate with my partner -- that means long sessions of kissing and cuddling, and deep quiet conversation about things that really matters to our hearts. I am also excited about naked emotional encounters with my partner, even if it leads to fights, because we are all very different and unique people with strongly held beliefs. This is provided that we both enter into it with love for each other and respect for differences in our hearts, and understand that we are fighting to discover a greater truth that will once again unite us. It is my belief that the courage to speak one's truth, the self-confidence to make one's stand and the humility and wisdom to change are the foundation of a healthy relationship. Wisdom and humility to change are especially important because without that, we stop growing.

I am intellectually sharp but can sometimes be a little dense socially, like not noticing who is cruising or not cruising me. You'll usually find me working on various pet projects, one of them invariable about making a positive impact on the world. My ambition is to make enough money so I can start giving it away.

Socially I'm generally more comfortable in small groups talking about things I or others find meaningful or feel passionate about. I also spend a lot of time by myself practicing on the piano, reading, writing and thinking.

Coelho's "The Alchemist". As the main character who dreamt of a treasure and traveled far and expereience much, and because he dared to go on a journey and follow it through wherever it led, it eventually led him home to where the treasure is.

All of Paulo Coelho's novels, Krishnamurti's philosophy, Arbinger Institute's books on self-deception and heart at peace.

Chopin, Rachmaninov, Scriabin, Brahms, Bach, Handel, Gregorian chants.

Contact (with Jodi Foster), Smoke (dir Wayne Wang), Deer Hunter, Evita (with Modonna), Shrek 1 & 2, Matrix.

Classical Greek sculpture, Vermeer, Picaso

We can all accomplish anything we set our mind and heart to accomplish.

We get into 'boxes' with others when we practice self-betrayal and it is our responsibility to get out of the boxes again.