Lovetastic: dating for gay men who believe in love

OK, first a point of disclosure: I made this website.

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Life is fleeting; the universe is cold and empty. We mammals should stick together--enjoying a bit of warmth, friendship, and camaraderie in the time we share here on this lonely (and lovely) rock in space.

OK, so I know it sounds corny, but I believe that expanding one's circle of close relationships whom we think of as "family" should be the principal occupation of--and principal source of meaning in--every human's life. Thus, this profile.

I think this is even more important for us guys who like guys (i.e., those who are thus somewhat indisposed to manufacturing infants and thus expanding our biological family directly). Contrary to the vapid stereotype, I know that gay men are capable of deep attachments, tremendous loyalty, and great love.

I am delightedly and happily married to a wonderful gentleman, and we intend to remain so for the rest of our lives. So I should say that I'm not looking for a boyfriend. But both of us are keen to see that our lives and circles expand together in the way I've described above, and that the number of people we count as intimate friends does as well.

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I generally don't like anything described as a part of "gay culture." The very idea is silly and insulting.

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I'm not easily offended. I'm pretty sure that claiming to be "offended" is just a morally lazy way to tell another person to shut up without having to prove that what they said is false. I like to think that, if you're a reasonably friendly and unpretentious person, it's very easy to spend time with me without feeling like judgements are constantly being made about your clothes, age, appearance, or predilections. It's easy to be honest with me.

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Are you an interesting, thoughtful fellow homosexual looking for another guy who is interested in getting to know and understand you and maybe to spend some time together having fun, even if it just means having coffee once a month to talk about what's on your mind? Send me a note and lets see if we can't make our Venn diagrams overlap at least little.

Hundreds of computer manuals (for better or worse), several piles of books for separate and unrelated research projects (including a book I've been working on for years,) and what is, I am only a little embarassed to admit, my extensive collection of Martha Stewart Living magazines stretching back to the publication's founding. These aren't my favorite books, just those that happen to be near my desk.

I think the Alfred Dunhill shop on Jermyn Street in London is a tremendously cool place.

Not having children.

*Hamlet* by Wm. Shakespeare

*Letters to a Young Contrarian* by Christopher Hitchens

The Collected Works of Garrison Keillor

*The King's English* by Fowler

*Modern English Usage* by the other Fowler

*How to be Idle* by Tom Hodgkinson

*The Science of Human Behavior* by BF Skinner.

*Hamlet: Poem Unlimited* by Harold Bloom

The Tallis Scholars, King's College Choir of Cambridge, Anonymous 4, Alfred Deller & the Deller Consort, Andreas Scholl, The Sixteen.

Arvo Pärt

Jordi Savall & Marin Marais

Nina, Ella, Billie.

John Lee Hooker, Stevie Ray Vaughan.

Fats Waller, Vince Guaraldi, Pat Metheney, Dave Brubeck, Duke Ellington.

Gillian Welch, Ralph Stanley, Nickel Creek.

The Penguin Cafe Orchestra.

Rufus Wainwright.

Yann Tiersen.

Edith Piaf, Jacques Dutronc, Francoise Hardy.

Everything by Woody Allen, esp. Stardust Memories, Shadows and Fog, Crimes and Misdemeanors, Interiors, and Husbands and Wives. (i.e., all the dark and depressing ones.)

The Charlie Brown Christmas Special

The Blues Brothers

North by Northwest

The Life Aquatic

To Catch a Thief

Amelie

The Gathering Storm, a surprisingly compelling HBO film about Churchill in the days before his ascent (for the second time) to First Lord of the Admiralty. Reminds me of my days in Westminister and a lovely summertime visit I once made to Chartwell.

Lord of the Rings. (Yeah; you wanna make something of it?)

Thomas Jefferson and Jazz by Ken Burns

Dr. Strangelove

The Thomas Crown Affair (the new one.)

I think Edward Hopper is the most profound American artist, and one of the most under-appreciated in the world.

I'm very fond of some architecture by the likes of I.M. Pei and Ludwig Mies van der Rohe, but I wouldn't really want to live in it. The interior of the Four Seasons in New York is one of the most beautiful spaces in the world.

I rather like Neo-Classical ornamentation styles, along with American Federalist.

Oh, and of course one can't omit Greek statuary, and its Roman and Renaissance revivals. Hot stuff!

The European Enlightenment.

The notion of Transubstantiation--manifestly false, as all other tenets of religions, but nonetheless kind of an interesting idea.

Paradigm shifts and tentative truth in science. (also more or less bogus)

Functional and scientific contextualism.

Barthesian Hermeneutics.

Cigars and brandy.

Radical behaviorism (à la Skinner.)

Free enterprise (regulated against excesses,) liberalism,
libertarianism, Smithean economics.

In general, I loathe Republicans. But I could listen to George F Will talk all day (and probably only disagree with 33.3% of what he said.)

The computer command line.

Jeffersonian idealism.